FINDING MY WAY TO FULFILLMENT
I was born and raised in the beautiful Caribbean island of Trinidad. I’m an only child and my parents divorced when I was a toddler. I am thankful for my parents because they taught me the value of tough love. Most of my family moved to the US, Canada or England and I knew one day I would leave our island home too. I moved to China! I currently live and work in Shanghai.
As a child, I spent a lot of time with my grandma on her huge farm in the countryside. I love nature and if you dare me, I will climb any tree. When I wasn’t there, I spent time with my cousins on another island called Tobago fishing, hiking, snorkeling and being wild. My dad taught me how to swim by throwing me into our family pool over and over again until I got it. I loved it. I was a crazy happy child.
My life changed after someone who was paid to take care of me began abusing me. I was made to believe it was my fault. I went from wild and free to feeling ashamed of myself. This shame would stay with me for most of my teenage life. By the time I hit my twenties, I was rebellious and independent. I hated authority and broke many rules. I used my angst to push me to do things I was too afraid to do on my own.
I made friends who I would probably be too shy to speak to. I became outspoken about my opinions. I was a bit careless but I was growing a voice and growing a backbone. I was so naughty as a teenager that I always felt sorry for my mom who did her best to protect me. My father was very strict so I can imagine this made his blood boil. Like many teenagers, I skipped school, did drugs, crashed several cars and developed an addiction to escaping pain. So, I took it on myself to earn my own money so I could maintain my independence.
I earned my first paycheck at 14 while I was in high school working at stores that would hire me to sell stuff. I always liked feeling free. Somehow working hard at something was the one thing I could control and it made me feel good about myself. I learned how to channel this towards things that would build my life and not destroy it. I started several small side hustles to earn extra money and I did. I am grateful my parents blessed me with the gift of education and that I was blessed with a natural love for learning. I earned two masters degrees, a bachelors degree and am currently pursuing a diploma. I graduated with honors three times (which as you can imagine made my family extremely proud.) I was advancing in my corporate career, and learning how to see opportunities in my life challenges but still felt like it was not meaningful enough.
My life changed when I flew to Mumbai to work with friends on a project that helped illiterate mothers in Dharavi slum. This opened the door to work on other impact projects in Kenya, China, and Thailand. Something about helping marginalized people in society makes me feel as if my time is worth it. It pains me to see others suffer. Now I understand that I can use my life experience, my grit, and my professional experience to create systems and processes that improve the lives of people who are less fortunate than many of us in the developed world.
A couple of years ago I started a small coaching business to empower women to improve their economic situation to find freedom in their lives. Abuse has been something I have been unfortunate to experience, both as a child and then again as an adult. I am very grateful to still be alive. I know many women who still live in fear and shame of their situation.
Recently, I partnered with dōTERRA as a wellness advocate because I had been using their natural medicine for some time and I believe in their mission to use every drop of their oil to improve the lives of marginalized families in Kenya, Somalia, Brazil, China, and other hardship afflicted countries. I want the work of my team to count for something bigger than just us. I want us to work on something meaningful. I want us to make a difference.
We can all agree that things are connected. Your head, your heart, your gut, and your actions all affect the outcomes in your life. Your gut health supports healthy emotions and is usually neglected. Improving one of these things can improve others with consistent effort. I’ve spent the last four years working on my heart and my head (mindset). I worked hard to change my heart from holding hate from my past to holding love and then my head and my actions followed. Now I am working on my gut health. What do you want to work on now to see changes in your life?
Remember, no matter what your life situation is, what you make of your life is up to you. Struggling with an abusive spouse or person? Struggling with addiction (drugs, alcohol, binge eating)? Struggling with low self-worth? Struggling with making a change? Struggling with starting a side hustle to make ends meet? Struggling with mindset and health issues because of your situation? Struggling with being misunderstood and want to be part of a supportive community? I’ve got something that can help with that.
Deciding to change your life is a big step. Having a coach is different from counseling or teaching. The work is up to you. Your coach helps you to find clarity and give you guidance and tools to make the transformation more effectively and achieve results. Think of an NBA coach – all great athletes have great coaches. Having a great life too sometimes requires having a great coach that you can trust to have your back and one who’s been through the same hell that you’re going through now. Coaching helped me overcome my blocks and now I hope that as your coach, I can help you overcome your blocks too. You got this!